“The crucial point is it has to be now…”

I have several framed quotes on my kitchen counter. One is “If today was the last day of my life, would I do what I am about to do?” “NO!!!” is the answer.

Another quote is: “Base your decisions, not on feelings, but the outcome you want.” I have lost track of what that might even mean right now.

Burkeman has called me on the carpet. I am one that postpones “real life” to the future when I have time. “When I have time” is always the carrot I am chasing. How about you? We need to knock it off, I think…

The word control brings up a myriad of images. It can be negative as in being “controlling” or positive – as in taking control of your life.

How are you doin’?

Me? I can always use some work.

Below is Shane Parrish’s reminder of what we can and do control that can lead to a fuller more gratifying life.

Here’s to finding your sweet spot.

Have a good week!

Vicki P.

Tiny Thought

Things you control:

BEAUTIFUL BLOG POST BELOW by Morgan Housel from Collabfund.

… the point being that while we can’t change things, we have the power to respond far better than we usually do, and ultimately affect our “non-lucky” success.

Enjoy your Sunday.
xox
Vicki P

The Luckier You Are the Nicer You Should Be

MAR 2, 2023
by Morgan Housel

An important skill – an incredibly hard one – is identifying when things in your life are temporarily too good, and preparing for the inevitable adjustment.

It’s so difficult, because most people’s willingness to put up with hard times relies on the idea that you’ll eventually be rewarded with good times. When good times come, you feel like you earned it, and nothing is easier to justify than deserved reward.

This week I am giving the TB spot to an old friend. Roy is a LA transplant from the Midwest, a retired stock broker… and a dog lover. He writes about Tuppy coming into his and his wife’s lives in 1982, after the death of their beloved Crumpet.

Tuppy’s life was uncomplicated and privileged… marred only by the Clinton/Lewinsky televised sex scandal hearings… and the looming fear of a major stock market correction.

RIP, Tuppy. 

..since everyone suffers

These Things I’ve Learned

by Maya Angelou

I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. 

I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.”

I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. 

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.

While I no longer read the top sources for daily news, I do read some of my favorite columnists – if they are writing about anything other than politics. Below is a good article by NYT columnist David French about what men want. Found it interesting. You might as well.

Hope Valentine’s Day treated you well. Late wishes from me! Love, Vicki P.

Men Need Purpose More Than ‘Respect’

By David French, 2.12. 23