Giving Away Our Power

Giving away our power may have started as a survival tactic. In any case, humans are good at it. So good we are dumb to the fact that being a pleaser isn’t a pleasant way to live. 

 

Who would we be if we didn’t have to please at every turn?

 

Jocelyn Glei does a good job addressing the topic. Below is a short excerpt; you might want to read the entire article.

Love,

Vicki

Over the past many years, I have noticed myself talking more about being “in” my power. Whether that’s wanting to step into my power, wanting to be with someone who is in their power, etc.

But what exactly does that mean? To be “in” one’s power? 

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how we give our power away.

While I was doing some healing work a few weeks ago, I had a strong, visceral experience of what it felt like to give away my power. Not surprisingly, it did not feel good. I felt small, weak, lost, bereft — helpless.

So now I’ve been paying attention to how that happens for me — how I give my power away. It seems to be primarily in situations where I am trying to earn someone’s approval or acceptance, where I am trying to be “good.” 

There is a sense, in these moments, that I am trying to be somebody for somebody else. That is, rather than being myself, I am trying to contort myself into who I think someone else wants me to be. I am trying to fit into their definition of “good” — rather than my own.

And that is where the power leaks out — in thinking that I should be looking anywhere else, to anyone else, to understand how to be me. In thinking that there’s a way to get it “right.” Which, by extension, means there’s a way to get it wrong.