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Caregiving
- Allow the Cat to Get Your Tongue
- When I Became a Widow
- Inspiration from Zen Hospice
- Death of a Bad Relationship
- Not Everyone Grieves
- Caregiving and the Long Farewell 2
- Caregiving and the Long Farewell 1
- Keeping Our Deceased Loved Ones Near
- Love is Bigger than the Coming and Going of Life
- Sharing a Letter for Father’s Day
- Teen Suicide: A Life Worth Living
- Hello to Her Stillborn Son
- Non-Government Work for the Dead
- Grief Demands an Answer
- Teaching your Family How to Grieve
- The Moth – Satori Shakhoor
- CONDOLENCE: Keep Those Cards and Letters Coming…
- Not Every Dead Person Was Loved
- Losing a Dog Can Be Harder
- Help! Someone Died 5 – End of Life Rituals
- Help! Someone Died 4 – What To Do
- Help! Someone Died 3 – What to Do
- Help! Someone Died 2 – What to Do
- Help! Someone Died 1 – What to Say
- Hello to Her Stillborn Son
- Two Sides of the Mess of Grieving
- The Holiday Season After Death
- For Those Experiencing Fresh Grief
- Keeping Our Deceased Loved Ones Near
- Thank God It’s Not Me
- We Are Not Who You Think
- With a Little Help from my Friends…and Others
- Eric Rhoads’s Sunday Coffee: When Moments Matter
- The Thing about Sheryl Sandberg
- The Holiday Letter
- Holiday blues: Four Mistakes We Make
- Should I Send A Holiday Card?
- FIRE!
- YES, I am Over 50 and I Miss Sex!
- Experiencing the Presence of Absence
- Not Every Dead Person Was Loved
- Losing a Dog Can Be Harder
- Featured Book: Insomniac City, New York, Oliver and Me.
- Teen Suicide: A Life Worth Living
- Will Trump Presidency Be a Razor Blade in the Hands of a 3-Year-Old or Not? *
- What David Taransaud Learned in Uganda
- Downside to Trading in the Traditional Funeral
- Help! Someone Died 5 – End of Life Rituals
- Understanding the Black Experience?
- Are You Mad as Hell or Just Sulking?
- Help! Someone Died 4 – What To Do
- Help! Someone Died 3 – What to Do
- Help! Someone Died 2 – What to Do
- Help! Someone Died 1 – What to Say
- Hello to Her Stillborn Son
- Two Sides of the Mess of Grieving
- No “White Christmas”
- Throw Everything onto the Floor
- Talking to your Children about the Paris Attacks
- Memory Bears
- Inspiration from Zen Hospice
- Making Her Casket
- Lord, Allow Harper Lee to Die in Peace
- Spousal Loss, the 2nd Year
- Aging: Balancing Loss…
- My Mother’s Shoes
- Why We Should Always Go to the Funeral
- It is a Beautiful Day to Die
- Death of a Bad Relationship
- Not Everyone Grieves
- The Loss of Chipper, a Golden Retriever
- Staying Level During the Holidays
- Disasters – Don’t Make This Mistake
- What to say when a young child asks about death?
- Living in the past?
- Alcohol Dulls the Pain of Grief But…
- Non-Government Work for the Dead
- Where’s God in your Grief?
- Spousal Loss: Don’t push away the tears
- Death and Identity Theft
- Teaching your Family How to Grieve
- Empathy vs. Sympathy
- The holiday season is over!
- What do I want for Christmas?
- Why Holidays Aren’t Always Holidays!
- Why You Need to be Touched and How to Make it Happen
- People Trying to Console Me
- For Those Experiencing Fresh Grief
- Difference Between Grief and Clinical Depression
- An Introduction to Classical Music
- When You Should Seek Outside Support
- Anger After the Death of a Loved One
- Are You Preoccupied with Guilt?
- A Memory of Mother
- What Good is Grief?
- Garrison Keilor’s Thanksgiving Message
- The Holiday Letter
- Holiday blues: Four Mistakes We Make
- Should I Send A Holiday Card?
- Our Holiday Series
- 10 Seconds of Silence
- No “White Christmas”
- Throw Everything onto the Floor
- Memory Bears
- The Holiday Season After Death
- Staying Level During the Holidays
- The holiday season is over!
- What do I want for Christmas?
- Love is Bigger than the Coming and Going of Life
- My Mother’s Shoes
- Grief Demands an Answer
- Mark Slouka’s New Yorker Magazine Post “Nobody’s Son”
- The Moth – Satori Shakhoor
- I Wear My Father’s Coat
- A Memory of Mother
- Forgetting Your Loved One
- Love is Bigger than the Coming and Going of Life
- Sibling Loss: My Cherished Sister Donna
- Grief Demands an Answer
- The Deeper Details of a Deceased Relationship
- Forgetting Your Loved One
- Just Do Right
- I Am Mentally Hard of Hearing
- Go Ahead. Try saying “I don’t know…”
- Allow the Cat to Get Your Tongue
- NO TIME TO ENJOY TIME
- We need silence. It isn’t a luxury. It is essential.
- Our New Culture of Humiliation
- How Do I Control My Online Life After I Die?
- Life as an Orchestra
- BITTER PILL – Are you really as open-minded as you think?
- CONDOLENCE: Keep Those Cards and Letters Coming…
- Love at the End of Marriage
- Adam’s Update
- Special Video Find: Looking for Adam
- YES, I am Over 50 and I Miss Sex!
- When I Became a Widow
- Featured Book: Insomniac City, New York, Oliver and Me.
- Entering into a New Relationship
- Spousal Loss, the 2nd Year
- Not Everyone Grieves
- The Holiday Season After Death
- Living in the past?
- Grief Demands an Answer
- Spousal Loss: Don’t push away the tears
- Sweet Lorraine
- What does age have to do with it?
- Controlling Death
- Most of us are part of the problem we complain about. – David Brooks
- Suicide
- Teen Suicide: A Life Worth Living
- Silent Suffering
- Radical Belonging in an Age of Othering
- Listen… and Think About This…
- I Am NOT Ill or Dead – Yet!
- On Giving a Fuck
- Happy New Year
- Just a thought…
- Critical Thinking
- Easy or Hard?
- The One Who Cares the Least Has All the Power
- Dr. Neimeyer’s “AfterTalk”
- Understandably Incapable
- Kerry Washington Quote
- Arguing
- Doomscrolling
- Fancy Stuff Isn’t Where It Is…
- Tape It to the Wall
- What You Conceive
- Putting It on Paper
- Need to Know
- How to Help Others in a Disaster
- Is it Pointless?
- The Performance Paradox
- On “second thought”…
- Only Through Patience
- Get it Done
- One Beautiful Smile
- Whew!
- Giving Away Our Power
- Conviction
- If Only
- Becoming Worthy of Old Age
- Truth
- Feeling Better
- Tech: Indeed, a Bittersweet Adventure
- Persevering Through Uncertainty
- The Task at Hand. It May Be to Stop.
- A Quote
- Tricks for Being Understood
- What’s In Your Control
- Thinking AGAIN
- Inner Idiot
- It’s Gotta Be Now
- Control
- Luckier You Are
- Roy’s Tuppy
- Quote Lindbergh
- These Things I’ve Learned
- MEN
- There is…
- The Wisdom of a Child
- Finding Time to Be Picky
- Bring Your Attention to the Task at Hand
- Celine Gounder Talks Back…Jan 8 NYT Essay to Anti-vax Crowd…
- RISK
- Two Questions
- Who Will We Be – Now?
- Why Do We Struggle…?
- What is a Good Faith Conversation?
- A Quote from Joseph Campbell
- Facing No Solid Ground
- A Consensus Toward Error Doesn’t…
- What I Can Control and What I Can’t
- Best-Selling Author Eric Barker – Research
- The Good Kind of Sad
- Not the Best
- Today Will Seem Like The Time…
- Spend Less Time on Pointing Out Problems, More on Solving Them
- Maria Popova Suggests We “Unself”
- Salvation-Through-Productivity is Back-Ass-Wards
- Making Space for More Than One Truth
- Ukraine Insanity
- Drop the Load
- Your Death is Not Yours
- You Are Who I Love
- Are We Losing Faith in Ourselves?
- Random Thoughts
- Life is a Bitch
- Staying in Bed Until Noon
- Skinny Legs
- We. Just. Cannot!
- Children Deserve the Honest Truth About Mass Shootings
- Kind vs. Nice
- Where Are You From?
- Who Are You?
- It’s Never Been Easier to Learn
- Kindness
- Controlling Your Wants
- When Sorrow Comes
- Hell YES!!!
- ACTIVE PATIENCE vs. PASSIVE PATIENCE
- Where We Have Power
- No Matter Your Age, You Need to Fall Out of Your Front Door!
- If we are awake, what does it mean to BE awake?
- What Would Jesus Do?
- I Will Put My Money Where My Mouth Is!!!
- Is humanity the center of the world – or part of it?
- Grieving the Loss of Certainty
- AMANDA GORMAN – 3 Poems From Her New Book
- Robin Williams Video
- The Future of Hope
- Asking for Help
- Another year about to end…
- Missing Choice
- The Ground is Never Steady
- AUT-UMN
- Marcel Duchamp’s late reckoning…
- Excerpt from Walter Isaacson Address at Lehigh University:
- Tiny Thought
- Begin It Now…
- To Evolve We Have to Tolerate Uncertainty
- Walk It Off!
- The Sound of Silence
- Where Are We?
- What Happens to You When You See a Beautiful Day?
- I Come to This Year
- What is Wrong with Us, Anyway?
- STAY AWAKE!!
- The Uneven Distribution of Awareness
- Living, Experiencing and Caring
- Languishing?
- Wisdom
- No One Can Protect You from Life…
- What We Don’t Consider, What We Miss
- Kindness
- DO BE FOOLISH!!!
- The Moment My Shoes Come Off, I Can Feel a Difference…
- Lifting Your Own Teabag
- Think About It…
- We are Stronger Than We Assume…
- What Do We Do with All of the Pain in the World?
- Bid 2020 Adieu. Walk Into 2021
- Too Little or Too Much Benefit of the Doubt?
- Giving Gifts to Adults
- Dear Santa
- I Worried: Poem by Mary Oliver
- The Power of Gratitude
- Are You Filming My Ass?
- “People’s Faces”
- Sometimes I Wonder if We Can Take Much More
- Some Pointers from Ron Padgett’s Poem…
- The Value of a Quarantine
- Life isn’t about “Just the facts, Ma’am!”
- The United States is a Long Way from United
- Where the Hell is Walter Cronkite?
- In My Opinion…
- Will I Die in a Sulk about Not Very Much?
- Good Cops, Bad Cops
- Just Do Right
- White Privilege
- We need to see their names. Arbery, Taylor and Floyd
- Acting Thoughtlessly vs. Not Acting at All
- Poems seldom need an introduction…
- The Facts of Life
- Uncertainty Eats Energy
- On Confinement
- Hearing from My High School Friends
- Grieving What We Can’t Control
- We Will Never Stamp Out Stupidity or Pain
- Wise commentary from Seth Godin
- Do You Have the Willies?
- Who You Were Meant to Be
- Remembering What We Love About Another
- Are You Good at Giving Feedback?
- I Am Mentally Hard of Hearing
- WHAT TO DO WITH LOVED ONE’S CREMAINS
- Go Ahead. Try saying “I don’t know…”
- Never Too Late
- No One Owes You Anything
- RIP Mr. Spinney
- Garrison Keilor’s Thanksgiving Message
- What Does Death Have To Do With Race, Sexuality, and Gender?
- We need silence. It isn’t a luxury. It is essential.
- Words of Pain
- What If You Had Five Minutes to Live?
- Small Kindnesses
- A Jungle Love Affair
- Our Love Affair with the Narrow View
- What’s Under Your Story?
- Are You Happy?
- Pick Up the Broom and Begin
- A PS to Last Week’s Post
- Kyle Korver is White
- Jean Vanier – A Saint
- What Do You Enjoy…that is distinct, different, idiosyncratic, private, unmistakable, remarkable and notable?
- Oh yes… I remember when…
- The 45-pound Nepalese Mutt, Mera
- Love is Bigger than the Coming and Going of Life
- How to Talk with Children about Death
- Come Hell or High Water, I Am Not Changing My Mind!
- TWO GOOD WOMEN
- Every Once in a While We Need to Lighten Up!
- Why Wait for Someone to Ask You to Be Their Valentine?
- Even Better Broken
- How Do I Control My Online Life After I Die?
- Most of us are part of the problem we complain about. – David Brooks
- In Honor of a Good Woman, Ursula LeGuin
- Adam’s Update
- Special Video Find: Looking for Adam
- Are Your Estate Documents Current?
- Will Trump Presidency Be a Razor Blade in the Hands of a 3-Year-Old or Not? *
- Understanding the Black Experience?
- Are You Mad as Hell or Just Sulking?
- Silent Suffering
- 10 Seconds of Silence
- Talking to your Children about the Paris Attacks
- The Loss of Chipper, a Golden Retriever
- Advent Reflection on Life, Sorrow, & Loss